Monday, October 31, 2005

A Little Response

So I get this anonymous comment on my blog that says

So he forgets your anniversary without getting bitched out for it and
supporting him, too? You are a far more patient woman than I.

So I figure I will comment on this just a bit.
First, I will ask that you just come on out and say who you are. I am not going to attack you or be angry with you. I am just going to explain my position and hope that you see where I'm coming from. I just ask that you give yourself a name for me so I know who I'm responding to.

Second, I generally don't EVER bitch Chris out. I think there are much better and more positive ways of dealing with any issue. Bitching makes me a bitch. I don't do that. As far as being upset that he didn't make some big hairy deal out of our anniversary - who cares? Like I said, I think special days like birthdays and anniversaries can be special to some but don't always have to be. For me, they're more about making the other person feel special and loved - not to make sure they make me feel that way.

Third, it is true that I support Chris. But he supports me too. WE support EACH OTHER. We each contribute to the life that we have together and I appreciate his contributions immensely. While our financial information is not for public consumption here on my blog, I will simply say that he is responsible for a good chunk of the green currently flowing INTO our household. Not only that, but there is much more than money that goes into making our house a home. Chris is great about helping out around the house. He generally does my laundry every week (he just doesn't manage to hang it up! haha ... just pokin' at ya, babe ;-) ) !! He puts up with me on Sunday evenings when I'm so tired I can hardly stand. He doesn't expect me to do things around the house when I'm falling over. He lets me rest when I can rest.

Third, yes - I am a VERY patient person! Anybody who knows me can tell you that. But patience isn't really what matters between Chris and I. While there are certainly times when it helps, I think that our understanding and respect for each other are the top things that keep us going day in and day out.

So for you, anonymous blogreader, and anyone else who may have wondered...I hope this gives you a bit more of an insight into why I do the things that I do. Whether you are a first-time reader or one of the other anonymous commenters that I've gotten, please introduce yourself!

To everyone else ... Happy Halloween! And just in case you are interested - it's been 36 days straight I've been working. I've got 25 more to go and then it's Thanksgiving! WHEW! But worth it ... so, so worth it!

Have a great one!



At 7:04 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sister and Nekkid,

What a nasty post.. THEY don't understand and it took me a very very long time to understand but I do now.

What's going on? How's work? Anything new? Good Gravy, would love to hear from you.

Please call when you can.. I think of you both everyday. I love and miss you both beyond words.

We have alot of catching upon.. aaaahhhh MOTHERLAND!!!

Love you Both

At 5:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sorry. I'm to blame. My full comment is posted at my blog: frivolouscake.blogspot

At 9:22 AM, Blogger Darbi said...

Awww... don't apologize to me, I don't mind! I like making other people feel extra-special on holidays and don't really expect anything in return. And Chris makes me feel special every day. I come home after work and he hugs me every day like it's been days since we've seen each other. It's lovely! You have raised a WONDERFUL son. Thank you!


At 5:11 AM, Blogger Charlene said...

That is so sweet. I am so glad that Chris is with someone that totally understands him (not that I ever questioned). I always loved the little things he did everyday just to make a person feel special. I know growing up with him he always makes you feel special.


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